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Friday, December 3, 2010

The Love of a Good Woman (Blog Ten)

On December 10, Elaine and I will celebrate being married 32 1/2 years.  Every year on our half-year anniversary, we go out to dinner at Coach and Four Restaurant in Roanoke, Virginia and exchange anniversary cards.  Some may think it silly for us to celebrate our anniversary twice a year, but Elaine is a woman worth celebrating, especially for being married to an outdoor writer.

Over the years, Elaine and I have taken many outdoor related trips together - many of which went less than smoothly.  There was the time in the mid 1980s on the Rapppahannock River when a torrential thunderstorm took place, the river flooded, our canoe overturned, and we spend part of an afternoon huddled on a bank hoping lightning would not strike us.

On two other occasions, our canoe overturned (both of which were my fault), and my wife was unceremoniously dumped into a river.  She never cast the proverbial stones at me.  Back in 1995, not long after we had purchased our red Dagger Legend, we were loading the boat onto our vehicle when the canoe shifted and somehow one of Elaine's fingers became caught in a rope and broken.  Elaine has never blamed me for the broken digit, but it was my fault.

Just last week, we were using our chainsaw to cut down a dead pine in our front yard when the blade became stuck in the tree and when after turning off the saw, we had to laboriously remove the blade from the hinge.  Later we decided to use a rope to "guide" the tree downward, but the rope slipped out of my hands, Elaine fell and landed on her left hand, spraining it.  Again, my sweetheart did not blame me.

A little over two years ago, Elaine was diagnosed with a virulent form of breast cancer, and it was the darkest time of our married lives.  Fortunately, she survived two rounds of chemotherapy and other treatments, and we both are very optimistic about her future.  Elaine is a determined woman.

Over the next year, I know the following will happen:
Long after dark, I will bring a deer home for us to butcher, and she will arise and help wrap the tenderloins for the freezer and not complain about doing so.
I will do something stupid while float fishing, and she will merely bite her lip.
I will ask for her to pose for pictures out in the snow, and she will bear it.
I will plan some outdoor adventure that has failure written all over it, and Elaine will sweetly talk me out of it.
She will cook all manners of game animals, fish, and wild berries, mushrooms, and nuts that I bring home and always do so cheerfully.

On our first date, we held hands, and ever since holding her hand has filled my heart with joy. Whenever Elaine sees me, she smiles. Elaine is my sweetheart and the love of a good woman has made me a better man.


  1. Your relationship with Elaine sounds like a true love story. I believe the two of you were created for one another and your relationship was destined to be enduring. The photograph of the romantic dinner perfectly illustrates the love and friendship described in the blog.

    I will admit, I will be very cautious about any invitation you may extend to me for an outdoor adventure. I never knew hanging out with you could be so dangerous. Elaine is a brave woman!

  2. Awwwwww :) its such a happy ending. I wish more relationships went like that, to many people get married to quickly and end up regretting it later.

    PostScript. holding hands is my favorite

  3. Aw! This sounds so sweet! Congrats on your anniversary! (:

  4. That's so great Mr. Ingram.

  5. That's so sweet. I hope that I can have such a great marriage like you two have when I'm older. :)

  6. That is really sweet! Congrats!!!

  7. Taylor Swift should make this blog into a song. I'd listen to it.

  8. Awhh that is really sweet!! Your wife is very brave and seems really nice. I cant believe all the things that yall have been through thats really amazing! Happy Anniversary Mr. Ingram :)

  9. congrats . you remind me of a man im going to be.

  10. i never celebrate half years, Simply because i cant keep a girl that long...

    congrats mr ingram!

  11. I have to say, Elaine is a TROOPER! You all should celebrate two anniversary's considering all the things you both have been through! Congrats!!

  12. Awhh that is so sweet. ^_^ It's going to be hard to top that when next anniversary comes around. Good luck!

  13. pull up to coach and four blasting some t.swift. she'll be way more in love

  14. This is so sweet. In todays society it is rare to be married for so long!! Elaine sounds like a tough woman. Congratulations, Happy Anniversary Mr.Ingram!